Wednesday, December 25, 2013

[FW] 二十年的道別

http://blog.xuite.net/chihyun.chang/twblog/183219810

讀後心得:推本文的原因,是因為不是每個人都能把「年老」這件事看得那麼平常卻又透徹。 寫得太好了。 既不讓人感覺歲月所帶來的恐懼,同時又能忠實傳達歲月為人生所帶來的挑戰。
再者,作者寫出了法律是因時制宜的產物,必須定期更新。 過時的法律就像是過期的食物,就算正常使用,都會有高度風險的。

二十年的道別
生於宣統三年與民國同歲的外婆有著不平凡的百年。安徽安慶「胡玉美」醬園的長房長女,浙江大學化工系畢業。八十年前的中國女人是不讀書的,一位不纏足的女大學畢業生,代表的就是五四運動時的新女性,睿智沉著、具科學邏輯、擅於分析歸納,對於外婆而言,性別不是隔閡,她打破了千年吃定中國女性不吐骨頭的禮教,她的知識代表中國女人的能力完全與男人並駕齊驅。
這位新女性,打破千年禮教,但她無法戰勝百年衰老。二十年前開始失智,十年前外公過逝後,快速惡化,很快不認得我,五年前,她不認得親生子女。由此領悟的人生,深刻而痛苦,中壯年時的英明,臨老竟如此無助,無助的不是肉體衰老,而是神智漸失。二十年來,我學習接受一天天地失去外婆,這是為期二十年的道別。
二十年中的九年都是由一位菲律賓人,諾瑪,照顧她,九年前,四十七歲隻身來臺,首日相遇,母親問為何以近五旬之身來臺灣找工作?她回答滄桑且無奈:一位很不好的丈夫和父母小孩要養。一言道盡二十年菲國女性的滄桑和八十年前中國女性的無奈。外婆和諾瑪結下了九年之緣,全家都感激九年的盡心盡力,她是外婆的最親的人,至少九年來,外婆失去外公後,都是如此。
九年到了,今年四月諾瑪要離開臺灣,母親一直陷於焦慮中,誰將代替諾瑪?外婆當然不焦慮,因為她無法知道諾瑪將離開,但是我們不知如何向她解釋諾瑪的消失,她最親的人將離開她所剩無幾的生命。
新人有辦法幫助外婆嗎?外婆沒有語言能力,要如何與新人溝通?和需要協助的年輕人不同,筋骨百年,經不得萬一,錯誤使力,百年筋骨就散了;散了,再接不回了。
諾瑪被迫要回到最不願意見的丈夫身邊,她的父母小孩還是要她的收入,六旬老嫗無法再找到好工作,況且,她的情感也離不開外婆;對新人而言,不論再怎麼小心,都有可能讓外婆丟了性命,萬一發生,自然不是她的錯,但無論如何將對她的心靈烙下永恒的傷害?
外婆的生命,今年四月後,可能繼續嗎?無解,我也不敢想。外婆也無法察覺,百年生命在四月將面對莫大危機,歷經數十年戰亂的她如果知道百年來最大的危機竟然導因於已稱富庶的中華民國法律,她要如何看待效忠了一百年的國家?
如此死板的法律讓誰得益?留下諾瑪沒有犧牲任何臺灣人的工作機會,她只是讓這位民國同壽的老太太,八十年前的新女性,安穩渡過生命最後幾年。外婆需要請人,新人一定是外國人,但是她將背負延續風燭殘年的百年生命,如此不可負擔之重讓諾瑪的離去無人受益。雖然二十年的道別深刻而痛苦,但是仍想看著她慢慢地離去,靜靜地用生命和家人說再見。

Tuesday, December 24, 2013

[FW] Different Aspects of Legacies

http://julliengordon.com/4-ways-to-leave-your-legacyhttp://julliengordon.com/4-ways-to-leave-your-legacy

4 Ways To Leave Your Legacy Before You Die


Most people say they want to leave some sort of legacy in life. Even if they don’t say it, there is usually some sort of desire. We all want to be remembered because being remembered means that our lives had meaning and significance to someone other than ourselves. Some people call this eternal life, living on posthumously through something you created or left behind. The sad thing is most people don’t leave a legacy. And then there is another large group that get remembered through occasional visits to their tombstone and materials left in their will (i.e. money, house, etc) which ultimately deplete.


Many spiritual teachers’ such as Jesus, Confucius, Lao Tzu, and Buddha have left legacies that lasted milennia. Many inventors have left legacies that have lasted centuries like Alexander Graham Bell and the telephone or the Wright Brothers and the airplane. Artists of all types like Leonardo Davinci also leave legacies that last centuries. Some entrepreneurs and civic leaders tend to leave legacies that last decades or centuries as well. Below are four ways that you can consider leaving a legacy through some sort of vehicle or body. The higher your personal velocity during life is, the further your legacy will carry on after your engine conks out.
1. Baby bodies: How great a parent are you committed to being?
This is perhaps the easiest way to leave a legacy because almost anyone can have a child. We know that if we have kids and then they have kids, etc, etc, then our name will live on. In essence, we’re all a part of someone’s legacy biologically, but simply having kids limits your legacy to your family when your sphere of influence could actually be wider. The risk one takes to make a child is low, therefore the impact isn’t guaranteed to be great. The dilemma here is that some people think they have to give up on their non-biological legacy to ensure that their kid can leave a legacy, but we all have a legacy to leave whether we have kids or not.
2. Body of work: What are you creating that could impact the world for decades or centuries?
Musicians, artists, filmmakers, actors, authors, athletes, inventors, and others leave legacies through bodies of work. They leave behind music, paintings, films, books, inventions, and more. The risk one takes to make a living doing what they love—overcoming the predominant rumors of “the starving artist”—is great and not everyone makes it. But those who push the envelope and challenge the assumptions, limitations, and status quo of their field, industry, or genre usually aren’t forgotten because of their boldness and innovation. Examples include Michael Jackson, Charlie Chaplin, Edgar Allen Poe, George Washington Carver, Ben Franklin, and more.
3. Institutional body: What spaces are you creating to empower other people?
Entrepreneurs, spiritual and civic leaders, and educational pioneers fit here. They create companies, non-profits, governments, religions, colleges, universities, associations, and systems. The difference between a body of work and an institutional body is that an institutional body creates space for other people to grow and develop whereas a body of work typically comes from an individual. The risk of creating an institutional body includes all of the risk associated with creating a body of work in addition to financing buildings, supporting other people, and push back from existing institutions that yours may threaten. Once they grow from their cultish state to impacting overall culture, they are integrated in fabric of society. However, unless institutions evolve beyond their founder’s original vision and stay relevant to the times, they can become hollow buildings with no purpose except to keep going for the sake of continuing to go.
4. Body in service: What cause are you willing to die for?
Martyrs, soldiers, and servants to society give their bodies in service and they are remembered for their selfless sacrifice moreso than something they created and left behind. The legacies of those assassinated in the 1960s will live on, not just because they were assassinated, but the beliefs and principles that publicly stood for so strongly that caused their assassinations. And then there are servants to society like soldiers and those doing Mother Theresa-like work giving up their lives and worldly possessions to ensure that the forgotten members of society are loved and supported.

[FW] Different Kinds of Legacies

http://www.jongordon.com/blog/5-ways-to-leave-a-legacy-2/http://www.jongordon.com/blog/5-ways-to-leave-a-legacy-2/

1. A Legacy of Excellence – Saint Francis of Assisi said, “It’s no use walking anywhere to preach unless your preaching is your walking.” To leave a legacy of excellence, strive to be your best every day. As you strive for excellence you inspire excellence in others. You serve as a role model for your children, your friends and your colleagues. One person in pursuit of excellence raises the standards and behaviors of everyone around them. Your life is your greatest legacy and since you only have one life to give, give all you can.
2. A Legacy of Encouragement - You have a choice. You can lift others up or bring them down. Twenty years from now when people think of you what do you want them to remember? The way you encouraged them or discouraged them? I recently spent a few days with Ken Blanchard, author of The One Minute Manager, and I had the opportunity to thank him for his support, encouragement and the difference he has made in my life. He not only inspired me by the way he lived his life but also by the way he encouraged me as a writer and speaker. Who will you encourage today? Be that person that someone will call five, ten or twenty years from now and say “Thank you, I couldn’t have done it without you.”
3. A Legacy of Purpose – People are most energized when they are using their strengths and talents for a purpose beyond themselves. To leave a legacy of purpose, make your life about something bigger than you. While you’re not going to live forever you can live on through the legacy you leave and the positive impact you make in the world.
4. A Legacy of Love – I often think about my Mom, who passed away four years ago, and when I think about her I don’t recall her faults and mistakes or the disagreements we had. After all, who is perfect? But what I remember most about her was her love for me. She gave me a legacy of love that I now share with others. Share a legacy of love and it will embrace generations to come.
5. A Legacy of __________________. Share your thoughts on our blog or Facebook page.

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[FW] 4 Smart Ways to Leave a Legacy

http://www.forbes.com/sites/nextavenue/2013/08/01/4-smart-ways-to-leave-a-legacy/


  1. Provide a family history
  2. Give your money to a charity  by a meaningful gifting plan
  3. Write a legacy letter
  4. Prepare an ethical will

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

[新聞] 台灣在地老化,讓長輩在故里終老

台灣在地老化,讓長輩在故里終老

非常好的政策,
但是希望能徹底落實,而不是好了那些承包日間照護中心的不肖商人。

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

【TV】一部用失智症銜接世代的連續劇 「含笑食堂」#15, #16 心得感想

含笑食堂還是淪陷了,已經連著四集都完全沒著重於失智症的議題,
果真是描述三代的故事,尤其是第二代和第三代的感情戲=.="
是我當初開始看的時候,有太多期待了。

覺得台灣連續劇(或許整個國家都是)想要描述的議題太多,
但是上市以後,常常被觀眾/收視率牽著鼻子走,
是怎樣,現在連續劇主題只出現在宣傳片中,被拿來當話題新聞炒作衝收視率完就沒了嗎?焦點就完全模糊掉了。


像是最近台灣一個義務役士官中暑死亡的消息,
國防部竟然就草率的發佈消息考慮要取消關禁閉制度,
完全沒有去想到當初制定關禁閉背後的原因嗎??
制度的取消或修訂應該都是要經由仔細地思考評量過的決定,
是怎樣可以這麼草率的決定?
(果真,之後國防部就發佈了要重新考量。)

政府的發言人到底是在做什麼,幕僚又是在做什麼,
怎麼都不會盡到「思考」的責任。

再講下去,我的焦點也模糊掉了。
總而言之,含笑食堂讓我失望了。
太可惜了。

對了,
今天和我娘聊到台灣新聞,
我娘說,如果他會上網,他的評論一定也會導致被人肉搜索。 XD
哈哈哈~